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For those of us who are thinking about becoming parents and want to share our questions, worries, concerns, support, you name it! And also for anyone who can impart some wisdom, share experiences, and generally help us out...:) "Somewhere over the Rainbow, skies are blue, and the dreams that you dare to dream really do come true..."

Is this silly?

Posted By Paige Beavan on Jul 31, 2008 at 7:35AM

I think this may be a silly question but here goes. My fiance and I are planning on trying to get preggers right after we get married (in Dec.). I would like to have a child born in a certain month - he thinks I'm silly. So my question is - did any of you try to have your child born in a certain month? Is that (fairly) normal?

Adding A Second Child to the Mix...

Posted By kiwitwist on Apr 17, 2008 at 5:48AM

Okay, I know this will sound odd but I thought it would make a great coversation piece. I was reading an article on popsugar about Kate Hudson wanting baby #2 but she is no longer with her ex. So, this is when my brain started churning.

Would you ever have another child with your ex, just for the sake of having a child and knowing that both of your children would be from the same mom/father combo? Know what I mean? For example, if Kate H's ex wasn't involved with anyone why would she not have another child with him? It could work with them since they still like one another. Any thoughts? Sorry for the ramble it is early and my brain isn't functioning quite right yet. Oh and I know a lot of us are happily married so just think of this as a hypothetical please.

Tagged with: Baby #2, ex

New Babies & Family Names

Posted By Heidi Pepin on Mar 20, 2008 at 7:18AM

My cousin just had twins (yay!) this past Sunday and had made us all wait to find out the names. However, when they were finally revealed, I have to say that I wasn't the least bit surprised. My cousin had trouble getting pregnant so their dogs (Ty, Penny, and Bailey) more or less became their children. Well, Bailey passed away a few months ago from cancer so when it came time to name the twins, Bailey got an honorable mention. As did Ty.


Morgan Bailey (As named by her mother)Morgan Bailey (As named by her mother)


Ryan Tyler (As named by his father)Ryan Tyler (As named by his father)

It's a little bit unusual, even if the names are fairly traditional.

Did you name your children after someone (even a pet!) that you know/knew? Would you?

Tagged with: name, Pictures, twins, babies

Donating Your Eggs

Posted By kiwitwist on Mar 20, 2008 at 6:54AM

This morning I heard on the radio that alot of women donate their eggs in the USA for around $6,000. There was one girl who had donated over 60eggs. WOAH! To me this is crazy! I had a bunch of thoughts in my head as I heard this.

A) Could you live knowing you might have a biological child out there?
B) What about the risks later in life?
C) $6,000 that would solve a lot of money issues, do it twice and you are set (to a point)
D) I am very confused
E) Is the process painful, uncomfy, what?

So, I thought I would see what everyone else thinks of this. As much as I researched (not much) it doesn't look like you can do this in Canada. So, what are your thoughts?

Tagged with: Egg donations

Is It A Sign? :)

Posted By Heidi Pepin on Feb 29, 2008 at 11:51AM

For the last, oh, ten years or so, I feel like I've been on every form of birth control known to man. I know that's not entirely true, but when I look back, I remember taking the pill every morning (and different pills over the years!), I remember pulling the patch off every week and facing that disgusting square of hideousness on my skin where it was :BLECH:, and now I watch the little clock on my bathroom sink and wait for it to beep obnoxiously and tell me when it's time to change the nuvaring.

Now, don't get me wrong. Thank goodness for birth control and all its wonders, and I've been incredibly happy overall with the nuvaring this last year and I've rarely had any problems with it.

I do have a point to this blog, I swear. And here it is: Do you think it's a sign that after wearing the nuvaring (securely, at least in my mind) since September before last, suddenly it keeps trying to fall out?


In the last three weeks, the thing has been trying to escape and I diligently replace it, only to have the same problem again a few days later. John finally looked at me and said, "You think it's a sign?"


But I do feel, in my heart, that somehow this is going to work out eventually. That John will finally freaking get his tonsils out (March 6, woot!), that I will land this promotion, and that I will finally get the baby I want! Just probably not exactly according to the life plan of Heidi...:)

PS - I can't wait until Easter and I can play with my babies! (Family babies, but they're mine now...) Last time I saw my baby girl, Amelia, she told me that I was her favorite person in the whole world. :) Sigh. Cute overload. Can't wait!

Amelia - Elton Jane baby.Amelia - Elton Jane baby.

)The Burroughs Family - Our Many Generations :)

Amelia & Connor - Easter Eggs!Amelia & Connor - Easter Eggs!

What are some inexpensive date ideas?

Posted By Heidi Pepin on Feb 19, 2008 at 10:23AM

John and I have been stuck in a rut lately, one which I am desperate to pull us out of. There never seems to be money to do very much, so we always end up sitting around the house, usually me reading a book and him watching tv all day on the weekends. Boring! I really want to get out of the house, or at least do something different, but it always seems to be up to me to take the initiative and actually make things happen. (Is it just my husband? Are others like this as well?)

But I need some ideas! We're seriously low on the cash funds, especially with his surgery coming up, but I am bound and determined to get a little spice back into our lives these next two weekends before his tonsils finally come out.

Any suggestions?

Tagged with: inexpensive, idea, date, help

Kinda dissapointed...

Posted By LaurenG22 on Feb 11, 2008 at 5:33PM

I am just kinda dissapointed right now... I have been off BC for a month and my period is "supposed" to start on this upcoming friday. I took a AHPT today (4 days early) and it said negative... I am just feeling like kind of a failure... anyone else feel like this after the first month passed? The hubs and I had sex at opportune times (and it was fun!!!) but I just kinda feel bad, like it's my fault? ok just thought I would blog and get it out of my system... there is always NEXT month, right????

Tagged with: ttc

A Little Baby Advice

Posted By Heidi Pepin on Feb 4, 2008 at 8:38AM

Well, I just got back from my doctor and she gave me lots of information so I thought that I'd share it with you. :) Especially since it's still fresh in my mind!

My doctor is currently pregnant with her 5th child in four years, which I believe must be some kind of crazy record. But she seems to enjoy it! And certainly is a font of information, so here goes...

Me: How do I know when my fertile period is?

Elaine: Have a couple periods first (off birth control) and then you'll have a better idea of when your fertile period actually is. Always mark down when your period STARTS. Your fertile period is 14 days before that. However, say that your period isn't perfect, as most women's aren't, and that you're starting at a different day every month - sometimes your periods are 28 days apart and sometimes they're 40 days apart. Well, your fertile period is sometime between 14 days before your period should start and 28 days.

(It all made sense when she said it, but I'm not sure how good I'm doing at explaining it.)

Also, your egg only lives for about 24 hours, but sperm can live in the body for up to 3 days. So, you should actually start trying about 3 days before your fertile period starts, that way there is sperm in there to help achieve conception.

(I found this all very interesting.)

Me: What OTC medicines can't I take when I'm pregnant?

Elaine: No Advil. Tylenol only. Be cautious with Sudafed. Really, if you have any questions, call me, call your doctor, whatever!

Me: I used to have horrible cramps before I was on birth control. What if I go off birth control and they come back? What medicine is it best for me to take?

Elaine: Well, Tylenol is the best, but let's face it, it doesn't work that well on cramps. If you need something stronger, call back here and we'll get you a prescription for Tylenol with Codeine.

(I found this to be incredibly good information) Also, when your egg is being implanted in your uterus, it can feel like you're having horrible cramps, or even like your period is coming. You can get breast tenderness, a little spotting, all the symptoms of PMS. So if you're not sure what medicine to take, or whether or not it's cramps, take a pregnancy test before taking any medication. If your period has started, go ahead and take Advil. But a lot of the symptoms of early pregnancy mimic PMS.

Me: When should I take the pre-natal vitamin?

Elaine: Take it at night. The things that are really good in it, iron and calcium, are also things that can really upset your stomach or even cause nausea, something that's easier to deal with at night than during the day.

Me: What are the odds that I get pregnant the first month that I go off birth control?

Elaine: We call that first month the Super Egg. The odds are pretty good that you'll get pregnant right away, but there have been some cases documented where multiple eggs are produced that first month as well. Just something to think about. But once you go off birth control, the hormones immediately flush out of your system and you could get pregnant right away.

Me: What exactly are my odds for multiples? We have several cases on each side - mine and John's.

Elaine: Well, studies haven't exactly given a clear picture of why cases of multiples occur. But they usually do occur within the same family. But just because they're in your family doesn't mean that you will or even have a higher chance of having multiples.

Me: My mother had me 3 weeks early and my sister came about 3 months early? What are my odds that this happens to me too?

Elaine: Typically what happens to your parents isn't indicative that this will happen to you, at least in this case. Your mother most likely may have had an issue with her cervix, her babies, you name it, but most likely, it was a case of her and only her. But it is something to mention to your OBGYN as well. Also, once you have one baby that comes early, usually each subsequent pregnancy the odds are higher that it will happen again.

She also told me that once you start trying, it really is best to stop taking all drugs, all alcohol, and anything else that will adversely harm the baby. Studies haven't conclusively proven that having a glass of wine a night will hurt the baby, but why take the chance? And I agree with that.

Overall, she said to eat healthy, exercise like I was before, and just be cautious about what goes into body, also goes into baby. :)

She also recommended that I get some blood work done - to check and see if I'm actually immune to the rubella disease. I said, but I've been vaccinated against it. She said that some people still aren't immune to it and that they have to do three months of immunizations again before you have the baby if you're not immune. Rubella can cause all sorts of problems with the baby - including deafness.

Has anyone else been tested for rubella? I've never even heard of anyone having it, so I'm up in the air about having the blood work (especially since the stupid blood work company can never get our insurance right and I have to deal with them AGAIN and ARGH!)

What didn't you expect about pregnancy?

Posted By Heidi Pepin on Jan 30, 2008 at 11:32AM

I went to my cousin's virtual baby shower this weekend and while it was a lot of fun, it wasn't quite as fun because my cousin wasn't actually there in person. (Although virtually, she attended!) She's due with twins in April, but as she's barely five feet and carrying two, she's on bed rest now, awaiting their probable early arrival. I think that she knew that it was always a possibility that she'd end up on bed rest, but it wasn't necessarily something that she was expecting to have to go through.

And that got me to wondering - what didn't you expect about pregnancy? Feel free to give plenty of examples!

And speaking of babies, here's the newest arrival in my family: (Born Jan. 24 to my cousin, Kurt)

Meet Claire MaryMeet Claire Mary

Tagged with: expectation, surprise, pregnancy

How Do You Keep the Lovey Dovey Going?

Posted By kiwitwist on Jan 29, 2008 at 10:46AM

For all of you have children, this question is for you. How do you manage to keep the spark, be lovey dovey, etc. after you have had a child? I know date night is a biggy. Just looking to see what you all do. :bananana: